Stigmatization

She was a friend, more like a family member, and sister. We have been friends for a long time sso long a time that people ask me her whereabout when she is not with me and there other way round. When she run into problem it was from me that she takes back her solutions. When she felt emotionally weak, she Drew her strength back from me. There have been other days that I also send my financial matters to her and she solve it for me. As the saying goes " A true friend is found in time of distress". Meaning a friend that comes to your aid when you are in critical need is a friend not to joke with.

Few months ago I notice some kind of withdrawal, well I was not sure if it was a delibrate act or it was due to our daily stress. With the above insurity I kept asking her if something was wrong with her? Her response was No, all was fine just that she was very busy lately with work and it related issues. I trusted her and I believe what she told me. You see, the best part of good friendship is trust. Even in marriages without these small four letter words TRUST the marriage will fall, separation will led to divorce. You hear a lot of people say I love you but I don't trust you? Like hello. Which planet are you from ha. It's because we Trust someone that we love them and not the other way round.

Now to the story

So I also try to limit mine been around with her. A popular African proverb says " we should do to others what they do to us". It only through this reciprocal act that the person will notice her short comings. Low and below it works for me.

I was in my house the other day, it was in the evening a night fall around 8:00pm and I got a nock on my door. When I inquired who the person was, it was her. I was skeptical but for benefits of doubts I allowed her in and we had a seat. I offer to give her water as it is the norm, but she declined.

So to the point straight, I asked her why she came? Looking at her face I could see a change in facial expression. Not that of a good one, aaa well we will soon get to the point.

She went like, dear I have known you for long time, you yourself is aware of how far we have come... We have been each others keeper and we never kept secrets away from each other. Well, in all I have been nodding to her since.

Now she continues why are you not telling me the truth? I asked truth about what? She begins to stumbled in words. " You belong to those people...? You are not straight...? I was beginning to get her but I push on her, that I don't understand what she is saying. " She told me she doesn't want to mention the name because it's disgusting. That was when I got the whole picture. I asked her do you mean if am a Lisbian?

The point is she called me a Lisbian, she identified me as a Lisbian without finding out from me if I really was. I have to say her down and speak sense to her.

You see we humans have left our assigned duties and responsibilities that the God who created us has given us and want to rather do God's work for him. If indeed I am or was a Lisbian, how is it your case? It is between me and my God, is it not God who will judge us wrong doers? Leave God to be my final judge.

I want to use this platform to inform the whole world that I am not a Lisbian. World pulse platform is not and Lisbian group of people. It is a public platform for every single woman out there, it's a platform that stands for women inclusion and integration in society, it's a platform for the voiceless. It's like a radio station or a TV station that when you sent your problem them will find results. We got straight people here and so are Lisbian, but it's no

my business to intervene in any body personally issue.

I am a highly religious person but I don't hate Lisbian or others wide. I value them first because there are a human being like me, I love them like I will love my straight colleague. I also believe that God is not partial, he make it rain to both the righteous and unrighteous, who am I a human to judge my fellow human. If it was my daughter that came to become a Lisbian, I will pray for her to one day have a change of mind because I need my grandchildren but I will not hate her to the point of wanting to eliminate her.

I believe in God's standards of righteousness but I don't hate such ones. It not also my responsibility to Judge them but I can only pray for them to have a change state of mind.

This is my personal story, I have wanted to kept it as a secret but it hurt when I hide it. I therefore, publicly want World pulse to give it the necessary publicity to clear the air. As I kept saying it's a personal post and if in my words a reader is offended, please pardon me for it.

Thank you

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